Raise your hand if you’re an introvert.
I don’t want to call being introverted a struggle, but it is hard to make friends/cultivate relationships when you need lots of alone time. It’s even tougher when you work a full-time job that insists you be around others 40+ hours a week. If I take a walk around my neighborhood after work, I will cross the street to avoid making conversation with anyone – children included. It’s painful. And J deals with the brunt of the introversion: I need to be alone in the morning before work, and have to decompress a few minutes at the end of the day. Bless this man.
Truthfully I’d be perfectly happy reading a book and sitting on my couch all weekend. I need the time to recharge and refocus. And I’m content being the voice behind this blog. Blogging is a great hobby for introverts, right? But other times, I feel lonely and lacking female friendships. I’m terrible at maintaining friendships due to my introverted tendencies. I make and break plans. I forget to reply to texts. I don’t leave the house past 7:00 pm.
So I’ve been trying to step outside of my comfort zone. Attending networking events, attending blog meet-ups, getting off the couch. And I almost back out every single time. I was invited to an event over the weekend and came thisclose to backing out. That morning I had to run several errands, and when it was time for the party, I was sweaty and moody and it would have been easier to drive home and pour a glass of wine. But I didn’t. I went to Target and bought a new outfit because I didn’t feel confident in the one I initially planned to wear. I pulled over in a parking lot, changed my clothes, gathered my things, and made my way to the meet-up.
And it didn’t kill me. I got to know a couple of local bloggers a bit better. I ate good food. I took home a t-shirt and accessories. I laughed. I enjoyed myself. I got off the couch. My bra snapped in half and I still had a good time.
The moral of the story is: you never know what you’ll miss if you’re too scared (or introverted) to try. Maybe attending a networking event will lead to your dream job. Maybe you’ll make new friends. Maybe you’ll meet your significant other. Put yourself out there.
Is this a struggle for you?
Special thanks to Shop Local Kentucky, Mya from More Than Your Average, Kendall from Kendall Rae & Co, Good Foods Co-Op, and Sarah from Space, Place, & Southern Grace for making it all possible! All photos courtesy of Sarah from Space, Place, & Southern Grace.